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Welcome to my first blog! If you're a single Christian woman over the age of 30, this blog is for you. I want to talk about living a life that honors God while being open to meeting your soul mate at the same time. How do we balance the desire to know God with the desire to find a husband?

If you're reading this, I already know three things about you. #1 You are single. #2 You are a Christian. #3 You're still waiting for a husband. And if you're anything like me, you've already kissed your fair share of frogs and are getting a little tired of not finding the right one. Why are you still singe? Does God want you to be alone forever? Why doesn't it ever work out for you?

You are not alone! There are more and more women who are entering their 30's as singletons. I'm continually amazed at the number of single Christian women I meet. At first, I was sure I was the last person alive who hadn't gotten married and started a family in my twenties. The horror! But the closer I got to God the more He showed me other amazing women in the same situation. Attractive women who had good educations, great jobs, and a comfortable life, yet couldn't find Mr. Right.

But why has this happened? Why are women living their forth decade alone? I think there are endless reasons. The loss of Christian values in our society, a focus on education and career, the need for independence and spending too much time with the wrong guys are just a few. These aren't all bad things, in fact, some of them are very necessary. But they still leave a void in our hearts. And, for that reason, single thirty-somethings are some of the most frustrated people I know. No matter how much personal success, money, or life experience you have; there is still a desire for a mate that is left unfulfilled.

A woman is created to nurture, to be a helpmate, to bear children. As God creates each of us, He instills this nature into all women. And please do not doubt that He knows what He is doing!
Psalm 139:13-16 (NIV)
13 You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
15 You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.
16 You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life
was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.

God knows. He knows the frustration you feel, the loneliness, the unfulfilled desires of your heart. And He created you to find peace and harmony and satisfaction. But, He did not create you to find these things in a man. No, he created you to find these things in Him. Go ahead and ask your married friends. They know that the desires of your heart - your true nature will never be met in the arms of a man. These things will only be met in the everlasting arms of your heavenly father. Men, just like us, are only human and they will disappoint, they will let you down, they will do stupid things. But the Lord will never disappoint you, He will never let you down. I guarantee if you pursue the Lord with the passion you've been using to find a man, He will fulfill your every need. He will show you the love, security and companionship you've been longing for. And He's the only one who can.